Every person is different. Every person has things that they enjoy doing and dislikes doing. No matter what these things are, I believe one thing should stand out among all people: That is a desire to live life with no regrets whatsoever.
It’s difficult to explain how to live with no regrets, other than a few very general statements that we can make that apply to most people. But I’m willing to bet that we are all more common than we know and that a fulfilling life can be had with some very basic principles.
I’d Pick More Daisies
Consider the following passage by Nadine Stair,
“If I had my life to live over, I’d dare to make more mistakes next time. I’d relax, I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who lived sensibly and sanely, hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies.”
Sometimes reading passages like this opens our eyes to the truly small problems in our lives that we blow out of proportion. Regret is a harsh emotion, one that usually poisons the mind with the idea that life should have been done differently, rather than appreciated for what it is.
Interestingly enough, there is often a voice in your head (some call it instinct, intuition, “Jiminy Cricket”, etc.) that pushes you to do something. Whether it tells you to take a chance, handle a risky situation, or simply “follow your gut” we can often use this voice to determine what we should do to live life to the fullest.
Here are some simple ways you can decide to live without regret in your life. Notice how similar they are to the internal voice that you may have that is calling you to action.
Tips For Living Without Regret
Love People Bountifully
Love is often considered the most powerful and life-altering emotion there is. Sharing your love with others will do countless things that benefit you and the lives of those you touch.
Becoming a loving person will make you happier by association, it will ensure that you do not keep grudges, and ultimately make good people more abundant in your life. You must be loving in your words but actions are more important.
Do something small, something kind that shows another person you care about them today and every day forward. It can be as small as grabbing them a coffee, thanking them for what they’ve done for you, even a caring smile as a stranger walks past.
These seemingly small and inconsequential actions translate into a happier person, and this comes across to those you meet.
Pursue Your Passions
Your passions are the very reason you should wake up in the morning, get dressed, and take action. Having a strong passion that is rooted in your mind and actions gives you a sense of purpose.
Purpose is the grounding logic behind happiness. Often, when you take actions that seem to have no purpose you become unfulfilled and bored with life. Remember, boredom is not a result of having nothing to do, it is a result of having nothing fulfilling to do!
Your greatest potential lies in having a strong sense of purpose that pushes you into action. Only when we actualize the potential we have can we begin to enact this purpose and become happier and more fulfilled as a result. There is no room for regret in fulfillment.
Remember this saying that is at the root of all business, value, and happiness. No risk, no reward. Is it any wonder that the riskiest people seem to be happier? More fulfilled? And ultimately more excited about life? I don’t believe so.
Risks translate into new experiences, and our perceptions are what defines these experiences to us. There can be no such thing as failure or negativity unless the mind first creates them.
Imagine how empowering it is to take a risk and see it through the end. Even if the end is not what you expected, often the journey is where the fun and learning can be had! Have you ever talked to somebody after they have gone skydiving? Quit their lousy job? or took a chance on a date? They are normally far happier with themselves for doing something new and interesting.
Life is short, and life should be experienced fully. Don’t take unhealthy risks (i.e. smoking, excessive drinking, etc.) but take ones that you know will provide amazing experiences.
Be A Joker
Those who take life too seriously are those who don’t find the time to enjoy it. What’s the point in that? Life is meant to be enjoyed! not slaved away to your own mind or sense of doubt.
Some of the best experiences I have ever had have been a result of a group of taking myself lightly. We always admire the person who can laugh at themselves, not the person who has to have everything their way or the highway.
If you find yourself to be a stereotypically “serious” person, then try this. Whenever anything bad happens to you, imagine shifting the labels you place on those experiences. Instead of saying “this is bad!” say “this is a pickle!” Often times, placing labels and experiences in a humorous setting with our words can shift our mind away from what is “bad” and become less serious.
Decide Never To Fail
Yes, it’s true. The only failure you can recognize is one in your mind. How do I know? Easy. If you were to fail once but succeed another time, are you really a failure? No! Obviously failures are only failures when we choose to let them stop us. There is a quote that says this…
“You are never a failure, you are successful for making an attempt.” I would feel much better by trying something new than I would feel letting my fear control my actions. If you really want to succeed, all you need to do is be willing to learn and try again, that’s it!
It sounds very simple, but those who are extremely successful would never have become that way unless they decided to continue trying. In fact, I’ve never heard of or talked to a very successful person who has never failed at something. being afraid of failure is the only thing that can stop your momentum.
Be Unapologetically Yourself
Not being “you” is a waste of the “you” that you are! By learning to be yourself, and only TRULY yourself, you can begin to practice proper self-love. By the way, having more self-love greatly increases the love you can show and give to others.
How does being yourself allow you to practice self-love? It’s simple. By taking actions that are genuinely “you” (in-line with your interests, ideas, hobbies, etc.) then you are reasoning to yourself that you can accept the way you are without feeling a need to change or alter yourself for others.
By being more accepting, and forgiving, of yourself you can develop the mindset of pride in who you are and who you have, and will, become. Not to mention, often by being you, you attract like-minded thinkers, positive people, and beneficial interactions with those around you!
Ultimately, thee are just some ways you can begin to shift your thinking and live your life with few regrets! I’m sure that although we all come from different walks of life, these ideas can continue to be useful to all who come across them.
There are often things that we do that we know we would like to, but we let fear and doubt shroud our power to do them. Never let fear stop you from doing something! Fear is a lousy indicator of what is good for you because fear acts like an overprotective parent. It is useful enough to keep you alive, but restricting enough to allow you a sense of truly “living”.
Regrets are the enemies of livelihood and peace. They often represent our deepest desires that we can no longer pursue, or no longer have the ability to. Ultimately, living with regrets is a waste of life. And I won’t settle for that!